Attachment Therapy for Couples
Do you ever feel anxious in your relationship, even when your partner hasn’t given you a reason to doubt them? Maybe you catch yourself overthinking their words, watching their actions too closely, or worrying that they’ll leave, even when they reassure you they won’t.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. These struggles are often linked to attachment styles that began forming in childhood. The good news? With the right support, like attachment therapy for couples, you can understand where these patterns come from and learn healthier ways to connect.
Why Attachment Matters in Relationships
Our attachment style is shaped in childhood based on how we connected with our caregivers. Those early experiences affect how we trust, communicate, and bond in adult relationships.
Even if you had supportive parents, you may still carry patterns of anxiety or avoidance that show up with a partner. If your childhood relationships were inconsistent, emotionally distant, or unpredictable, trusting others may feel even harder. That’s where attachment therapy comes in, it helps couples trace these patterns back to their roots and work toward building more secure, trusting connections.
Attachment Styles & Adult Relationships
There are 3 common attachment styles:
Secure Attachment
Secure usually refers to individuals that do not have trouble trusting others and are emotionally aware of their needs, how to communicate them, and have no trouble working with their partner to achieve them.
Anxious Attachment
This style is self explanatory in the name. It refers to individuals that struggle with trusting others, are highly sensitive to their partner's behaviour, overly change their own behaviour to please their partner, lack boundaries, and heavily fear abandonment or betrayal.
Avoidant Attachment
Avoidant partners may pull away when things get emotionally intense, withdraw during conflict, or prioritize independence over closeness.
It’s important to remember these styles aren’t fixed. Many people are a mix, and with support from couples therapy, you can learn how to create healthier dynamics.
Attachment Therapy to Understand How your Style Impacts your Relationship
If you’re constantly questioning your partner’s love or feel unable to fully relax in your relationship, attachment therapy can help. Working with a therapist provides a safe, non-judgmental space to:
Identify Your Attachment Style
Understand how your unique attachment patterns shape your reactions, fears, and expectations in relationships.Address Anxiety and Trust Issues
Learn strategies to reduce overthinking, jealousy, or fear of abandonment, so you can feel more secure with your partner.Strengthen Communication
Couples therapy helps both partners express needs clearly and listen without defensiveness, creating a stronger emotional bond.Build Secure Connection
Over time, therapy supports you in creating relationships rooted in safety, respect, and mutual trust, rather than fear or insecurity.
Take the First Step Toward Stronger Love
At Healing Voices Psychotherapy, we know how painful it can feel when anxiety or mistrust gets in the way of love. That’s why our therapist, Alysha Plaggemeier, specializes in attachment therapy and couples therapy. She helps couples explore their patterns, rebuild trust, and deepen their connection, all through the flexibility of virtual sessions across Ontario.
You don’t have to keep letting fear or insecurity hold your relationship back. Contact us to book a free 15-minute consultation with Alysha today and take the first step toward a relationship that feels safe, secure, and fulfilling.
